Playing the Game
Playing the Game
After a successful opening and getting their attention how do you build attraction and get a date?
A few months back I came across a girl whose online demeanor seemed like the perfect match. She seemed down to earth, pure-hearted, well-traveled, exotic etc. in other words someone I could just be myself. I naively thought to myself that I wouldn’t play the usual courtship/mind games that I normally would. In the beginning it seemed amazing, we were getting along well and my heart and mind was set on pursuing this girl wholeheartedly. I was wrong! The complete absence of mind games made the ‘chase’ dull and meaningless. She quickly lost interest and went on to avoid me.
Now you might be thinking I am just inexperienced or just lack ‘game’ with this particular girl – that may be true however it made me realize one important unspoken rule when it comes to dating. Regardless of the person’s nature or virtues there always needs to be some kind of chemistry for the relationship/courtship to progress. This is where the concept of ‘mind games’ and ‘the chase’ are essential for creating the chemistry to bond two people.
Women love to play mind games (even though they never admit it) and men love to chase. It’s this inherent evolutionary mind-set that underlies all successful relationships. Let’s look at some of the essential principles and strategies that must be understood to be successful at online dating. Mind you the scope of this article only covers the relationship until the dating phase.