Playing Hard to Get
Playing Hard to Get
Acting nonchalant, detached and apathetic are all tell-tale signs that someone is playing hard to get or is genuinely disinterested. Often used by women to qualify men it creates a powerful anticipatory effect in the pursuant and can intensify the relationship. It signals to the pursuant that they are not ‘easy’ and that they are also desired by others. After all people want what they can't have.
Like everything in life, it’s about finding the right balance. If you play too hard to get you may appear snobbish and if you are not playing at all you may appear ‘easy’. It’s important to play hard to get so that people won’t treat you as ‘easy’ however don’t abuse this manipulative technique.
It’s about pulling someone in just enough to create interest and pushing them away far enough for them to come running back. Some simple ways to play hard to get may include: Taking your time to respond to messages, not returning phone calls, one word answers, refraining from showing interest in the other person etc.
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